refactor(#2756): replace the DAG terminal hook with real tail nodes

The queue carried a per-DAG `HookKind` that fired an inline side effect
from outside the graph when a container rolled up terminal. mara asked
three times why this could not be an ordinary node; the answer in the
code was a doc-comment claiming a node could not work, and it was wrong.

`DepWhen::AfterAny` already existed with two live users, and a weak edge
is satisfied by a `Cancelled` dep, so a tail node runs on success,
failure and cancel alike. What was genuinely missing was smaller than a
hook: a node had no way to learn how the work it followed ended.

So: `Claim` now carries `deps: Vec<DepOutcome>`, snapshotted at claim
time from the graph the scheduler already holds (no `hive-jobq` change).
`Claim::deps_state()` / `deps_error()` roll that up, and two new kinds
consume it — `ResolveApproval { approval_id }` and `EmitRebuilt { agent }`.
Templates append one as a group-root with `AfterAny` edges onto the DAG's
other group roots; a root's state is its subtree's roll-up, so that
covers every node without fanning out to each of them.

Deleted: `HookKind`, `DagSpec.hook`, `NodeKind::Dag.hook`, `DagMeta.hook`,
`TerminalDag`, `terminal_dag()`, `terminal_summary()`, `dag_agents()`,
`dag_rollup()`, `fire_terminal_hook()`, `run_terminal_hook()`,
`emit_rebuilt()`. `complete_node` returns `()`.

Load-bearing details:

- `JobQueue::cancel` spares tail nodes instead of cancelling the whole
  subtree, and returns `bool`. Without this a cancelled approval DAG
  would dangle its approval forever — the hazard `tests.rs` already
  named. The spared tail's deps are `Cancelled`, which satisfies its weak
  edge, so the scheduler claims it and it resolves the row as cancelled.
  `hive-jobq` anticipated exactly this: `cancel_node`'s doc already says
  to settle afterwards so "a weak-edge terminal node observing the
  cancellation" can advance.
- The existing `complete(container)` call after cancelling is kept and is
  deliberately a no-op when a tail was spared (a non-terminal child parks
  the container back in `Finishing`), so power ops still settle
  synchronously with no branch.
- `DeployTail` is NOT `is_tail()`: it does real compensating work, and a
  cancelled DAG has nothing to compensate.
- `exec::failure_reason` falls back to `first_error(dag_id)` because a
  group root that rolled up `Failed` from a child carries no error of its
  own — without it every tail-reported failure would lose its reason.
- `EmitRebuilt` is per agent, so a multi-agent DAG reports each agent's
  own outcome rather than painting all of them with the DAG roll-up.
- `ResolveApproval` is agentless: the approval row already names its
  agent, and that is also what lets one tail close a multi-agent DAG.

Transients-derived-from-running-nodes and the frontend's node-kind
strings stay out of this change; they touch iris's slice and review
better next to their own diff.

docs/coordinator.md

@@ -49,7 +49,7 @@ Cheap — no build slot:
 | `MetaSync`      | the rebuild's meta preamble — rebuild-dir prep, idempotent meta `sync_agents`, optional per-agent relock. Holds the `MetaWindow` resource (below); deliberately its own node so the window never covers `Prebuild`'s multi-minute build |
 | `Reconcile`     | idempotent power converge: read `wanted` (below) + observed state; start if `Up` & down (cold-start fallback included), stop if `Offline` & up, else noop |
 | `StopForUpdate` | mechanical `nixos-container stop` for the profile swap; never touches `wanted`; noop if already stopped                               |
-| `PostSwap`      | the swap's Ok-only bookkeeping tail — rev marker, forge/matrix sync, manager kick, rescan, meta-inputs snapshot; `AfterOk(Swap)` so it runs only on a successful swap (the `Rebuilt` manager event still fires once per DAG from the terminal hook, not here) |
+| `PostSwap`      | the swap's Ok-only bookkeeping tail — rev marker, forge/matrix sync, manager kick, rescan, meta-inputs snapshot; `AfterOk(Swap)` so it runs only on a successful swap (the `Rebuilt` manager event is emitted by the DAG's `EmitRebuilt` tail node, not here) |
 | `Signal`        | set the graceful fence + kick, so the harness runs one stop-checkpoint turn                                                           |
 | `Drain`         | await the harness clearing the fence, bounded by the 3-min graceful-stop timeout; resolves ok either way                              |
 | `WriteDropin`   | `set_nspawn_flags` + `set_resource_limits` + daemon-reload                                                                            |